BOOKS

The Body Keeps the Score - Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the worlds foremost experts on trauma, uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain.

Boundaries - Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone's requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others' feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it's all of the above. This book will help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.

Breaking Bonds - Written by a financial advisor who also was abused, Breaking Bonds is an award-winning survival handbook that gives you the knowledge and tools you need to stand up to threats and intimidation, reduce your stress, and make better strategic decisions during your divorce.

Can I Kiss You? - An in-depth look at the realities of relationships and sexual intimacy. While most people simply make their move with a partner, Mike Domitrz reveals why asking first makes all the difference.

Change Your Brain Change Your Life - The neuropsychiatrist author offers evidence that anxiety, depression, anger, obsessiveness, or impulsiveness could be related to how structures in your brain work, and offers "brain prescriptions" or exercises that can help heal your brain and change your life with techniques for calming inner turmoil, curbing anger, fighting off negative thoughts, improving problem solving and more.

Dating After Trauma - The author discusses the common obstacles abuse victims have when trying to find love. Her story is based on her own personal struggle to overcome past trauma and find her soulmate. Through this insight, she provides a methodology for dating that builds trust and intimacy in a safe/healthy way, and helps you let go of your fear and date in a way that love becomes possible.

The Gaslight Effect - Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is hard to recognize and break free from. The book tells you how to detect gaslighting, recognize the stages and how to escape it in your relationships.

Getting Free - Getting Free has changed the lives of tens of thousands of women. Written in an accessible style, packed with practical information and answers, special exercises designed to help a woman recognize abuse, and several success stories.

The Gifts of Imperfection - After abuse ends, feelings of inadequacy and shame can last. The author explores these difficult emotions and places importance on accepting imperfection and vulnerability. She guides readers through a process of beginning to “engage with the world from a place of worthiness,” learning to love yourself just as you are.

Growing Free - Victims often don't recognize they are being abused, may minimize their experience and may make excuses for the abuser. The checklists, questionnaires, and personal stories in this book can provide the recognition needed to say, “This is wrong. It has to end.” Plus lists of abusive behaviors, protection orders and other legal matters, safety planning and safe relationships in the future.

How to Be Nice to Yourself - Today’s the day to start loving yourself. How to Be Nice to Yourself makes it simple to start practicing self compassion with a wide variety of techniques and strategies that anyone can learn.

It’s My Life Now - After finding a way out, a victim's difficulties are solved: life is good, they are safe, and recovery is swift. Not so fast. Survivors know that leaving does not end the nightmare. It is the beginning of an often difficult journey to healing and happiness. This book offers practical guidance, exercises, reassurance, and awareness that survivors of relationship abuse need to reclaim their lives.

No Visible Wounds - Does your partner become jealous, prevent you from seeing friends, deny you access to bank accounts, credit cards, or the car, call you derogatory names, humiliate you in front of the kids or turn minor incidents into major arguments? If you answer "yes" to the questions, chances are you are suffering from nonphysical battering, controlling, tyrannical behavior that is domestic violence.

Psychopath Free - Psychopaths are cunning charmers and master manipulators, to the point where you start to accept the most extreme behaviors as normal. Even if it hurts you. Guide for survivors written by a survivor, offering hope for healing and thriving after psychopathic abuse.

Relationship Safety Skills - This handbook is for victims and potential victims of relationship violence, and support people in their lives. Concepts and skills include: assessing what is safe and unsafe behavior in a relationship; setting effective boundaries; controlling emotional triggers; taking the power out of verbal attack; leaving dangerous situations; verbal self-defense tactics; and getting help effectively.

Safe People - Safe People will help you to recognize 20 traits of relationally untrustworthy people. Discover what makes some people relationally safe, and how to avoid unhealthy entanglements.

Scared to Leave, Afraid to Stay - This book presents stories of ten women as they fought the courts and their abusers to gain safety for themselves and their children. The author demonstrates how courts handle divorce, custody, visitation, support, child abuse, marital property, orders of protection and crimes when domestic violence erupts, and discusses the tactics abusers use to maintain control over their partners.

Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Learn to tell the difference between a healthy-yet-difficult relationship and one that is really not working, recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem, stop waiting to see what happens and make their own growth the top priority, and prepare for life without their partner even as they keep trying to make the relationship work.

The Verbally Abusive Relationship - Learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, how to recognize and deal with it safely, and most important, how to lead a happier, healthier life. Also, outside stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse, mitigate the effects on relationships, levels of abuse (insidious put-downs, tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threats that can escalate into physical abuse).

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay - The author draws on years of counseling experience to lead readers through relationship ambivalence. A careful line of 36 questions and self-analysis techniques designed to get to the heart of relationship and marriage problems. Straightforward advice designed for newer and older relationships. Presents a plethora of information and experience in a clear, concise manner.

What to do When Love Turns Violent - Empowers you to find help and take back your life. Everything you need to know to get out of danger: making a protective order work; calling the police; finding safe shelter; seeking medical attention; getting financial assistance, to details on how to stay safe and regain control over your life: preparing for safety at home and at work; protecting your children; rebuilding your life.

Why Does He Do That? - From the perspective of the director of the first U.S. program for abusive men, the author offers early warning signs, ten abusive personality types, and the abusive mentality, and dispels 17 myths about abusive personalities, sheds light on the origin of the abuser's values and beliefs, which he believes is a better explanation of abusive behavior than reference to psychological problems.

Your Life After Trauma - Now a professional coach helping trauma victims rebuild their lives, Michele Rosenthal struggled with the effects of medically-induced post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for over 25 years before reaching a full recovery. Today, she is 100% free of PTSD. She applies her personal experience and professional wisdom to offer readers an invaluable roadmap to overcoming their own trauma.

30 Covert Emotional Manipulation Tactics - Learn the manipulator's game, so they can't play it with you. Identifying covert manipulation is tricky. This short but powerful 33-page book will teach you how to identify the 30 tactics manipulators use to get what they want. You'll also learn to spot the warning signs within yourself that expose covert manipulation is taking place, even if you can't identify the specific tactics being used.